Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes
Kathryn Griffin – The Dedicated House – Home Decor Enthusiast & Future House Flipper
First off, if you pray, ask God for wisdom concerning the challenge. Then break the challenge down if possible into little tasks and assign due dates to complete the tasks. Set aside time every day to work on the tasks. Bit by bit, it will get done and you will be encouraged when you look and see all that you have accomplished.
Tamara Nicole – Owner of Pierre Exquisite Cuisine Catering Company
Pray through the process & trust that God will bring you out.
Alexis Paige Weiner- Real Estate Agent
A lot of the time large challenges may make you feel stuck and like you cannot move forward. It is when you are able to overcome these challenges that you really grow and persevere. The challenges are what makes us stronger and more resilient.
Megan- fashion blogger
My best advice for overcoming a challenge that seems impossible is to break things up into small goals and try to achieve those small goals one at a time. Over time this will help you get closer to overcoming the larger challenge in front of you. It is also important to keep in mind that there are something’s that you cannot change and to focus your efforts on the things that you can. Keep your faith and don’t give up. Surround yourself with positive influences. Before you realize it the challenge will not be as daunting as it was when you started and you will overcome it!
Skye McLain, Lifestyle Blogger & Virtual Ninja
My husband and I recently paid off over $57,000 in debt in less than 22 months. Standing at the bottom of that mountain of debt and looking for a way over it to the other side seemed impossible!! But we were able to put a couple of practices into place that really helped us stay motivated and focused! First of all, we changed our language. We started saying that we were only “22 payments” away from being out of debt (rather than 22 months, which sounds like forever!). So find a way to change your language about the task that you’re tackling to help trick your brain into thinking it is achievable. Second, we only focused on one small goal at a time. We quit doing anything else with our money and each month, focused all of our energy and attention on making that month’s payment towards debt. Getting rid of distractions and having laser focus on one small goal each month (rather than staring the entire project in the face every day) really helped up make progress each month!
Jaz Daigle – Houston Content Creator
Remember that trouble doesn’t last always. Acknowledge the worst that could happen, come to terms with it and proceed with your process.
Rachel Dickerson – Owner & Lead Organizer of A Beautiful Mess 101
We all have faced challenges and will continue to run into obstacles on a daily. I believe that nothing is too great to overcome, its tough but try to put your best foot forward. Yes that sounds cliche, but I could not agree more. Nothing comes easy and most of the time the more work you put into something the better the outcome.
One of my favorite quotes:
“”What if I fall? Oh, my darling, what if you Fly?””
Amy Hilton – Antique Dealer and Mom
Just do the next right thing. -Emily P. Freeman The Nest right Thing Podcast.
Amy Q. – Business Analyst, Mom & Blogger
No matter how awful you might feel, remember to always get up and do whatever is needed for your mental health. Wake up, exercise, get some sunlight, enjoy a cup of coffee, don’t neglect time with yourself, eat well, write down your goals, enjoy great company, cheers that glass of wine and embrace the little moments because time moves way too fast. Live your best life! Keep striving even if it’s baby steps. Focus on overcoming and never give up!
Kristen Stubbe: Lifestyle and style & beauty blogger
Make goals! When I start to feel anxious by something, I stop whatever I’m doing and pull out a piece of paper, or even my phone, and I just start writing things down. I write the end goal, and the small steps that it’s going to take to get there. Once it’s written out and I can physically look at it and know what I need to do to accomplish the task, I start to feel better.
Alisha Ingraham- Realtor, Home Buying & Selling Specialist
Surround yourself with experts in the field. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Accomplish things one day at a time. Look at failure and challenges as opportunities to learn, grow, and be better. Then take a leap of faith and just go for it!
Briannah Branch – Makeup Artist
The best advice that I can give Is to pray. My faith has help me overcome many challenges in my life and I don’t know where I would be without it. The other piece of advice that I have would be to create small goals that will inevitably help you overcome the challenges that you may be facing.
Anna Ivanova. Portrait and family photographer, Houston,TX
In my personal experience breaking down a huge problem into a set of smaller ones is often very helpful.
This simple rule is allowing you to solve the problem step by step. It is much easier to wrap your head around a smaller task, simpler to estimate how much time will it take and resource it might take to complete. Moreover it is takes less willpower to start working on the smaller issue too.
And sometimes you need to take a break, recharge your inner battery and after that start over again with a vengeance!
Genavi Brune-Katy and Houston Based Wedding Photographer
The biggest piece of advice I could give anyone would be not to give up hope. Sometimes things feel unfair or seem to be consuming but if we give up on ourselves, we also give up on our dreams. Remember that nothing will ever be easy, but in the end it will be worth it.
Kenia Miramontes- Owner & Therapist
Do not give up, be persistent. Embrace failure, it gives you the opportunity to adjust and grow. It’s simply telling you you’re closer to success. If you need a little motivation always remind yourself of how amazing and satisfying reaching that goal would be.
Lauren Haley – Violinist, Author, Speaker
Make comfort in knowing that it’s okay for things to feel impossible. Think of how in the past you’ve risen to the occasion. You’ve already built a repertoire of conquered challenges to look back on! This moment, no matter how bleak it seems, will soon be a guiding light through future difficulties.
Carissa Stephens | Lifestyle Blogger and Beauty Influencer
Life can be unpredictable at times. The greater the vision you have for yourself, the more you must be prepared to face challenges as you strive to achieve your goals. Keep pushing and always strive for the grandest vision you have for your life. Never be afraid to take risks and understand that facing challenges is just a part of life. Sometimes challenges arise just to make us better, stronger… wiser. When challenges arise that test my resilience, I always try to find the silver lining. Once I find the positive in my situation, whatever it may be, I turn my energy into gratitude. Gratitude is a magnet for miracles and abundant living. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we handle it. When life gives you lemons, make the sweetest lemonade then set up your lemonade stand!
Tamara Smith CEO and Founder of TTS Publishing and Author of The Story of a Purple Heart
The most powerful testimonies are rooted in the greatest struggles. Remember to have faith in God and there is no challenge that he cannot help you overcome.
Cynthia Peters – Makeup Artist; Style Vlogger and Future Attorney
The true test of a person is not how hard you fall to the bottom, but what you learnt on your way down to the bottom. This is only a phase; it will pass. Everything happens for a reason, so pay attention to the lesson each experience brings. Also, never suffer in silence because a closed mouth never gets fed. Finally remember that life is a journey; you are never alone. So keep your faith strong and don’t give up.
Ina Real – Body Positive Influencer, Vlogger and YouTuber
The best advice I have for overcoming something you feel is insurmountable would be to not let it take over your life. Sometimes things can seem impossible because the timing isn’t right. We can get so wrapped up in goals we are trying to accomplish that any little set back seems like Everest. We need to realize that the best thing we can do sometimes is just step away from the situation and let time do it’s thing. Come back to it with a clear mind and new ideas! And if you’re still a little stuck, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Karla Arjona- Houston Realtor®
Believe in yourself first. Knowing that you are capable of doing anything makes a world of difference. I know this is hard, but if you work on it every day by asserting yourself and doing something like stand in front of your mirror every morning and saying, “ I am beautiful, I am capable of doing great things when I put my heart and my all into them” it works. You are your biggest cheerleader and your biggest bully. It’s up to you and no one else. Once you have that; then you just have to trust that you are capable of finding solutions to any problem you might have. Listen, give it your all, put your heart and soul into everything you do, and do not be afraid to do great things. Oh and surround yourself with people who lift you up and cheer for you.
Cristie Williams – Photographer, Lifestyle Influencer, Field Producer and Digital Marketing Manager
I believe that all challenges in life make you a stronger person. Don’t be afraid to fail time and time again, it’s just a part of life. For anyone that is struggling, I say laughing is the best cure. Watch funny movies or go see your favorite comedian. Stay focused. Set goals and write them down in a journal. Create a vision board so that you can manifest greater things coming to you. Take care of your health. Meditate or simply take a walk outside to connect with nature. Get some rest. Take a break from social media if you have to. Everyone online posts their “picture perfect” life, but we all know that no one is perfect and we all struggle one way or another. It will also help you stop comparing yourself from others. Cut off negativity. That means friends or circles that no longer serve you, dead-end jobs that make you unhappy. But, don’t isolate yourself either. Surround yourself with positive people that will take you to the next level and bring out the best in you. That could mean catching up with an old friend you trust or simply reading your favorite author. Help others when you can, but don’t forget to love and put yourself first. Sometimes you just need to travel. Go out and explore your city, other countries, see the world from a different view. Try exotic food. I promise you will come back home feeling humbled experiencing different cultures, refreshed with new ideas. Find a hobby and learn a new skill. Stay adventurous. Try something you’ve never done before. I went skydiving once to get past my fears. And, it was one of the best decisions of my life! Look within you. What you put out is what you get back in return. And lastly, when you look up at those amazing stars at night, it will remind you how you’re just a tiny particle in this great, vast universe. You, my friend is made up of one of those stars.