Throughout our journey with Voyage, the one thing we have learned over and over is that hidden within every challenge is a blessing or opportunity. It’s up to us to determine whether a challenge we face will be a step back or the catalyst for a step forward.
We had the honor of connecting with some of the city’s brightest female leaders and role models and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
Below, you’ll find their advice and links and other info so you can learn more about them, their work and how to connect with them. We’ll be interviewing many of these amazing women in the coming weeks, stay tuned.
Allison Marek, LCSW, CDWF – Psychotherapist in Private Practice, Program Director at Center for Discovery
Be gentle with yourself. This may sound cheesy but hear me out: shaming ourselves and criticizing ourselves, especially when we’re down, simply isn’t helpful. Feeling your feelings is part of resilience. Treat yourself like you would treat a friend and surround yourself with a support system, including a therapist. Everyone deserves a space where they feel supported.
You are stronger than you even know it. There is nothing you can’t overcome if you truly put your all into it and go in with a positive mind. You would be surprised at the things you are able to accomplish, you should always at least try.
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Melanie Perez (Yoga With Mel) – Certified Yoga Teacher
“When you feel like your life is falling apart it just might be that its falling into place”. Also it’s ok to cry. And it’s ok to be vulnerable. But it’s not ok to be negative forever. 🙂
Maggie Segrich – Jewelry Designer
My best advice when facing what feels like an insurmountable challenge is two part: 1. When you feel like you’re stuck, get unstuck. Go do something that will recharge your spirit and problem solving stamina. 2. Seek a community that is tackling a similar challenge. Finding solace with others will not only offer a fresh perspective and burst of energy, but it can also boost your positivity and confidence. Plus, you never know what creative spark may occur from those conversations and offer a new and/or improved way to tackle your challenge.
Lindsay McClelland, Yoga instructor, Marathon Runner & Digital Marketing Pro
My best advice when facing a difficult challenge is to look at it in sections and then stay present in that moment. For example, say you’re running a marathon. 26.2 miles sounds crazy, but if you look at it as one mile at a time and stay in the moment, it’s a lot easier visualize!
Brandie Thompson – Yoga Instructor, Mother, & Designer
Difficult roads often lead to Beautiful Destinations. This is a phrase I remind myself of every time I’m personally faced with something I feel is challenging. I believe at one time or another everyone is faced with an issue or situation that feels truly insurmountable. It’s these times and struggles that show us how strong we are and often what we value most. While they can be overwhelming they can also end up opening our eyes and shining light on what and who matters most to us- resulting in gratitude for the insight the issue gave us. And as Mario Fernandez said “Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine “. By staying true to yourself and seeking the strength you have from within as well as reaching out to others for support you will see the sunshine in a way you may never have thought you could before. – Brandie Thompson
Nayelly Anahi – Texas Makeup Artist
BE FEARLESS IN THE PURSUIT OF WHAT SETS YOUR SOUL ON FIRE.
Carla Aston, Interior Designer and Design Blogger
Divide it up into bite-size bits and try to overcome and conquer it step by step. Celebrate each small win and feel the sense of accomplishment with each little victory.
Tricia Miller | Private Practice Therapist, Podcaster & Mom
Every challenge presents an opportunity. This is an opportunity for you to learn, grow and thrive. People grow when they are challenged, and this is the process of building strength and resilience. It’s okay to feel scared, overwhelmed and self-doubt when faced with something new. Don’t expect to do this on your own! Give yourself permission to ask for help and seek the encouragement of others. Sometimes the answer is bigger than yourself. Last, do not let the fear of failure keep you back– believe in yourself, surround yourself with positivity and give it a try. You got this!
Estela Cockrell, Founder of Clean Beauty Brand Switch2Pure.com
May you can have PEACE. HOPE. RECONCILIATION. PEACE for what is, and how you accept the challenge, but are not controlled by the challenge. HOPE for what is to come. RECONCILIATION for how you consolidate your feelings and the power of the peace.
ANNA LOLOMARI – Interior Redesigner & Lifestyle Influencer
Nothing in life comes easy …most important is moving forward with a spirit of positivity & never looking back at the if’s & nots and disappointments. In all they are lessons that make us stronger in Life & every set back has a Solution.
Abby Van Egdom, LMFTA – Relationship/Couples Therapist
It must be completely overwhelming, exhausting, and hopeless to find yourself facing a challenge and thinking you could never overcome it. When we feel that way, we can isolate ourselves or shut down. Seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist may be one of the best ways to feel less alone and be able to find possibilities. Sometimes just having someone validate your experience and letting you know you are not alone can empower us to overcome many challenges that life throws at us.
Emilia “Millie” Usry – Teen Influencer
What I would tell them is so cliché but, it is also so true. If you believe in what you are wanting to do and you truly feel like you can do, then do it! No matter how little sleep you get or how many “no’s” you get, your “yes” is coming if you don’t give up and you work as hard as it takes!
Alicia Dugar Stephenson | Experienced Yoga Teacher, Yoga Teacher Trainer, Serial Entrepreneur
When a challenge feels insurmountable, pause for 10 deep breaths. Then, consider what you ultimately want from this situation. Avoid focusing on things you don’t want, and let go of words like “”stop, won’t, can’t, etc””. Then take an action toward what you do want in your life. I discuss the process I use for challenges in depth in my upcoming book. More info coming soon about how you can get your hands on a copy of this life changing book!
Nicole Cara Zauhar Yoga & Dance Instructor
My advice for anyone who is facing adviresity is to surrender and accept the things you cannot change. You can only control yourself, so find something you can do in a tough situation to better yourself.
Crystal Bell- Lynn’s Lipz “Lip Gloss” Business owner
Is to first take a deep breath and remember that there is no circumstance you cannot overcome. Do not harbor over things you have no control over. Focus on resolving things you can to the best of your ability. Once you’ve completed resolving things in your control, meditate and move on.
Carolina Lozano – Influencer & Creator of The Curly Truth
My best advice would be to think about how far they have come in life and remind themselves of what they’re capable of. This one challenge they are currently facing is just leading them to something bigger and better. I truly believe every challenge people face in their life teaches them something valuable and helps them grow. Think about the bigger picture of what the end result they want accomplished so that this one challenge seems like a piece of cake.
Bushra Farrukh | Makeup Artist
Nothing is Insurmountable if one is determined enough so just believe in yourself and face the challenge head on. Starting where you’re, and making tiny changes towards the right direction, will take you slowly towards your challenge, little by little, you realize that you simply have overcome it all. After all, mountains aren’t climbed all at once, but in small steps.
Liza Bailey- Healthcare Administrator, Autism Advocate, and Founder of Perfect Connection 501(c)3
Give God a little more time! You have to know that nothing your going through has caught him by surprise! He is in total control. Have a content heart and mind knowing that the joy, peace, happiness that is meant for you won’t miss you. What miss you was never meant for you! Stay positive and patient! ❤️
Kayla Newnam – Registered Dietitian Nutritionist
Always keep a positive mindset and bring your own sunshine. Remember the vision that you have for yourself and continue working towards that. Sometimes we get so fixated on the obstacles that it halts our progress in life and our ability to appreciate everything else in the present moment. I believe in considering obstacles as lessons and utilizing them as a method of growth for future endeavors. So, go out and conquer the world. You only live one life and you deserve the best of the best!
Sara Waters | Registered Dietitian/Sports Dietitian
The sweetest successes come from the hardest trials. Stop and breathe. Then break down the challenge into smaller pieces. In your career, you are bound to be met with resistance and rejection at some point–take it in stride and use it to propel you forward. In life, don’t let yourself get in your own way. Be kind to yourself and ask for help if needed. Above all else, just keep going!”
Samina Qureshi Registered Dietitian and Owner of Wholesome Start Nutrition Counseling
Take it one step at a time. Everything does not need to be perfectly done all at once!
Kelly Costello – Fine Art Wedding Photographer
Accept the challenge, keep everything in perspective, and find something positive in the situation even if its small.
Laura Miranda – Houston Realtor
My advice would be to always remember that you are bigger than any challenge you’ll ever face in life. Take a breather and cry out it for a day BUT get back up and keep going at it. You can do it & I promise the end result will be so worth it.
Denalyn Perez- Portrait Photographer
If you are facing something that feels insurmountable at the moment, my advice is do not keep it locked in. Turn to your spiritual leaders and your most trustworthy friends. I am often guilty of keeping everything pent up inside, but by doing that, I only hurt myself. I turn to scripture in these moments. 1 Peter 5:7 says “Cast all your cares on [God] for He cares for you.” Find some quiet time and just meditate and get your mind off of it.
Leyla Moon – Photographer & Lifestyle/Travel Blogger
Give yourself time to cry it out and mentally process what you are going through. Many times difficult challenges may arise and bring out feelings in us that we never knew we had; but it’s very important to acknowledge those feelings because we are human. Take time to focus on yourself and practice self-love. That might be a spa day, or maybe you take time to go out and be in nature (a hike with your dog or a beach day). Sometimes a day offline can help, like not answering phone calls or emails (along with a social media detox). Whatever it may be that you choose to do…just focus on staying surrounded by people who uplift you and bring out the best in you.