We recently had the chance to connect with Bhuvaneshwari Vadivazhagan and have shared our conversation below.
Bhuvaneshwari, really appreciate you sharing your stories and insights with us. The world would have so much more understanding and empathy if we all were a bit more open about our stories and how they have helped shaped our journey and worldview. Let’s jump in with a fun one: What are you most proud of building — that nobody sees?
What I’m most proud of building, though it’s not visible to most, is the strength and emotional foundation of my family. Over the past few years, I’ve poured my time, energy, and heart into creating a stable, nurturing environment for my child and husband. From sleepless nights to learning how to manage a household from scratch, I’ve grown into someone more patient, resilient, and emotionally intelligent. I’ve built routines, memories, and a sense of security that gives my family the space to grow and thrive. While these efforts often go unseen, they’ve shaped who I am today and are now fueling my ambition to step into the workforce again—not just for financial reasons, but to grow personally and show my child the importance of lifelong learning and self-worth.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hi, I’m Bhuvaneshwari Vadivazhagan, a 27-year-old woman born and brought up in Chennai. I got married in 2019 and currently live in the U.S. with my husband and our 4-year-old child. I’m a proud homemaker who takes care of my family with love and dedication, and I’m also an aspiring influencer, sharing glimpses of my life, motherhood journey, and everyday inspiration. Balancing family life while building a voice online has helped me grow in confidence and creativity. I’m now preparing myself to step into the professional world soon and take the next step in my personal journey.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What breaks the bonds between people—and what restores them?
What often breaks the bonds between people is a lack of understanding, poor communication, or unspoken expectations. Over time, small misunderstandings, unmet emotional needs, or even life changes can create distance if not addressed. Ego, assumptions, and the inability to express vulnerability can also weaken relationships, whether it’s between friends, partners, or family members.
But what restores those bonds is empathy—the willingness to truly listen and understand where the other person is coming from. Honest conversations, forgiveness, and consistent small acts of care can slowly rebuild trust. Time and shared experiences also play a role in healing. At the core, it’s about choosing connection over pride, and showing up for each other even when it’s hard. That’s what keeps bonds alive and strong.
When did you stop hiding your pain and start using it as power?
I think I stopped hiding my pain the moment I realized that staying silent was making me feel invisible. As a middle-class woman, I was raised to be strong, adjust, and put others first. After marriage and motherhood, I faced struggles silently—whether it was loneliness, exhaustion, or the fear of not being “enough.” But over time, I understood that my pain wasn’t weakness; it was a sign of how much I cared, how much I gave. Slowly, I began to speak up—not to complain, but to connect. I started sharing my journey through small conversations, then through social media, and found strength in knowing that my story resonated with others. Now, instead of hiding my pain, I use it to remind myself—and maybe someone else—that softness is not weakness, and every struggle I’ve faced has shaped the strong woman and loving mother I’ve become.
I think our readers would appreciate hearing more about your values and what you think matters in life and career, etc. So our next question is along those lines. Whom do you admire for their character, not their power?
I admire my husband not for any power or position he holds, but for the quiet strength of his character that shines through in every little thing he does. He is my constant support system, the one who holds me up when I feel low, listens when I can’t find the words, and understands even the unspoken parts of me—my moods, insecurities, dreams, and fears. He doesn’t just love me; he truly sees me. He encourages me to pursue my passions, even when I doubt myself, and reminds me that I’m capable of more than I realize. He doesn’t push or pressure me—he gently teaches me the value of independence, confidence, and emotional resilience with love and patience.
What makes him admirable is not grand gestures, but the way he handles the everyday—with calm, kindness, and unwavering care. He respects me for who I am while helping me become who I want to be. His words heal, his presence comforts, and his actions inspire. In a world where many chase control or authority, he leads with compassion, humility, and a heart full of goodness. That’s the kind of character I admire deeply—the kind that changes lives quietly, but powerfully. And I’m blessed that I get to witness it every day.
Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. What will you regret not doing?
If there’s one thing I would never forgive myself for, it’s not standing by my parents the way they’ve stood by me all my life. I was raised in a middle-class home, but my parents made sure I never felt limited. They gave me the best they could—sometimes going without, just to fulfill my smallest wishes. They worked hard, dreamt big for me, and gave me a solid foundation through love, values, and education. Even in their struggles, they never let me feel the weight of it.
Now, as an adult, I feel it’s not just my responsibility but my heartfelt desire to give them a life of ease, dignity, and peace. Society might say that a woman’s priorities should change after marriage—but I believe love and gratitude should never change. My heart belongs to them as much as it does to the family I’ve built now. I want to be their strength, their comfort, just as they were mine. I don’t see it as helping—I see it as honoring. And if I didn’t do that, I know it would be my greatest regret.
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